Lately I have been getting a few questions from colleagues and friends as to just how I make my divorce work. And eventhought Divorce and Making Things Work seems to be dichotomus, I thought I'd share some of the strategies that I have chosen to use and, thankfully, Ex follows along (if only he was so ammendable when we were married!).
1. Keep the kids first
Ex and I definitely have different ideas on raising kids, morals, religion, etc. If we didn't then we most likely would not be Exes. We finally came to a point about 6 months after our divorce was finalized that we agreed to disagree. This means that sometimes he makes decisions I don't agree with (like having a babysitter for the kids almost every weekend he has them), but I do my best to keep my $.02 to myself about his decisions. He does the same for me, although he has little to complain about since I am so perfect ;-).
4. A very understanding new partner
5. Get used to having 2 husbands
Please reference my post titled: No, I am not your wife anymore for a much more detailed description of balancing an Ex who depends on you with trying to live your own life.
6. Let go and FORGIVE
|OMG! They are KISSING|