I wouldn't exactly call myself a feminist. I mean, I like being treated like a lady, having my door opened, being wooed as much as the next woman. However, perhaps because of my career (Engineer in manufacturing for any newbies to the site), I have a different perspective on the line between being a bra burning feminist and a lady. I also think that because I work in a male dominated (and lets face it, a better description is meathead dominated) job, I have developed dos and don'ts for how I handle myself and what I think (no, you don't have to think like I do) is appropriate clothing for girls and women in public (what you all do in your own homes is your business!).
For example, I do not think it is appropriate for young ladies to wear see-through shirts, daisy duke shorts, high heels, or thong underwear...all of which I saw with advertising targeted towards my 7th grade daughter while back to school shopping. It is not in my goals as a parent to teach my child to look like a whore...ever. Of course, I am in the minority in that my almost 12 year old is one of the few girls in her school that do not go to class with full-on make up either. I am fine with it...Manudo, hasn't complained too much yet, but I plan on using the "When I was growing up...." explanation cuz we all know kids LOVE that one!
I also think it is inappropriate for adult women (and I use this term loosely) to wear clothing that is gender degrading. Why in the world would a grown woman want to walk around wearing a Hooter's T-shirt, or even worse one from Playboy or Hustler? Especially when all of those built their MALE owned companies based on the objectification of women and their bodies. And before you ask, No, I haven't had the wings, and I don't care if they give me 3 minutes in heaven, you cannot tell me that most of the people who go there are going for the wings and not the, well, hooters. I am sure these are the same people who claim they read playboy and hustler for the "intellectually" stimulating articles....These people think women are here not only to be objectified but that they are dumb too!
However, I guess if your life's goal as a woman is to have men stare at your boobs all day by choice then you are being successful. Bravo! Let me know how that works for you when your boobs are closer to your knees and you haven't learned to get men to look you in the eye when talking to you.
I also believe that as a mom it is my job to teach both my daughters and even more importantly my son to respect women. Why is it that we all want our sons to be mommy's boy, but then society is okay with said son becoming a person who disrespects woman (and by association their mothers) once they grow a few hairs you know where? Isn't it important for our sons to think of women as smart, independent, and valuable life partners? Isn't it important to teach our daughters to love their female friends and respect them? I am so upset by all the girl to girl bullying these days. It is bad enough that young girls have to compete with society's vision of how they should look/act/dress, but to have to compete with their own female peers is just horrible.
Men, women, girls, boys, we all need to realize that women aren't going anywhere, especially not back to heels and aprons and thinking that we are only as valuable as the men who care for us. All women deserve respect especially from themselves!
That's not a smile, it is a grimace cuz her
feet are KILLING her!